I don’t want to bury the lead on this. I’m not going to unfriend anyone.
I have been reading a lot of posts lately, in which people warn others to unfriend them if they voted for the other guy and are therefore harboring racist or socialist beliefs in their souls. They say that to support the people currently in power on one issue is to support them in all issues and behaviors they exemplify.
To be honest, I don’t expect the election to change who I am in the least. If I am your friend now, I will still be your friend. I will still ask you to explain why you hold the beliefs you hold, as I always have. I will still ask for examples, as I always have. I will still strive for personal growth, understanding, finding common ground, truth, nurturing my better self, adjusting my vision to encompass things I’ve been blind to. I’m trying to do the work. Ecclesiastes has its place.
For months now, I have been posting VIGILANCE, COURAGE, UNITY. Friends asked why I was making this a daily reminder, did I set it up as an automatically repeated event, what did I mean by those words, why now – of all times. I started posting VIGILANCE, COURAGE, UNITY in Nancy’s memory. I took up the banner she lay down on her passing. At first it was to remember Nancy’s beacon of grace and honesty. She spoke truth, garnished with love, and never shied away from calling bullshit when that was what she saw.
As I continued the posting it became more of a prayer for these values to persist in the world. And finally it became a meditation on the values themselves. I have never set up the post as an automatic event. I wanted to be mindful of the words, intentional in my statement.
There are so many things we need to be Vigilant of: making progress, the impact of our words and actions, threats to our own well-being, storms on the horizon and shelter at hand.
We must have Courage to stand up for ourselves, speak truth to power, and listen when others speak their own truth. Just because theirs is not an experience we share does not make it any less true, nor make them any less Courageous for speaking out.
We must have the Courage to stand in Unity with others whose voice needs to be amplified. Unity does not mean sameness, and it does not mean “in lock step.”
And there are times we must have the Courage to stand alone and cry “bullshit!”